Single People Really Wish Their Friends Would Stop Saying These Things To Them
It’s inevitable that at some point in your life, you’re going to be single, and regardless of how you feel about being single, your friends are probably going to make comments about it.
They’re asking you questions or offering you advice because they want you to be happy and they want to help you if they can. The issue is that no single person needs the constant reminder that they are not in a relationship and there are some questions or comments you’re definitely tired of hearing after being single for a certain period of time.
“Have You Tried Tinder?”
It’s the 21st century, of course you’ve tried Tinder. You’ve also probably tried Bumble, Hinge, Okay Cupid, and even Plenty of Fish or E-Harmony in a moment of desperation. Sadly, dating apps or online dating isn’t always effective for everyone.
“You’re Being Too Picky”
Maybe you are being too picky, but even if that’s true, that’s your prerogative. If you want to be picky and refuse to go out with any more men that have man buns, that’s up to you.
“Being Single Is Better Than Being In A Bad Relationship”
Yes, that’s obviously true, but there are other options besides being single or being in a toxic relationship. For instance, being in a good, healthy relationship where you and your partner respect each out sure sounds nice.
“There’s Nothing Wrong With Being Single”
If someone says this to you they’re not wrong. The thing is, wanting to be in a relationship doesn’t mean you think there’s anything wrong with being single. It just means you’re ready to be partnered with someone.
“You Work Too Much”
You can balance a career and be in a relationship, please don’t let anyone else tell you that you can’t. However much you work, you can date if you choose to make the time for it, but also if you want to focus on your job right now that’s okay!
“You’re Not Putting Yourself Out There Enough”
What does this even mean? It feels like you’re doing everything that all your other friends did before they found relationships, and yet you’re apparently not putting yourself “out there.” That makes perfect sense.
“You’re Running Out Of Time”
No single person ever needs a reminder about the perceived impending doom of ending up alone. Whether you’re 25 or 45, you’re not going to end up alone if you don’t want to and you’re not running out of time.
“Are You Sure You’re Okay With Being The Third Wheel?”
When you’re the single person, people always assume that you won’t want to spend time with a couple because you’ll feel like you’re third-wheeling, but unless you tagging along on their date to a romantic restaurant, it’s just called spending time with friends. It doesn’t matter that there’s three of you.
“Maybe You Should Freeze Your Eggs, Just In Case”
Women are choosing to have children later in their 30s and sometimes into their 40s for various reasons, one of which is that they’re settling down later in life. But telling all your friends who are of childbearing years that they should freeze their eggs is not good.
“You Should Appreciate The Freedom”
Do people actually think that if you’re in a relationship you have no freedom? Because if so, maybe they’re the ones that need advice about their relationship. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you should always feel like you’re able to make your own decisions and do what you want to do.
“You’ll Find Someone Eventually”
They’re right, you will find someone, but you don’t need anyone to give you this unhelpful advice. This is just one of those things people say when they don’t know what else to say, but a lot of the time it would be more helpful to just say nothing.
“Spend Time Getting To Know Yourself First”
Maybe you’re someone who’s been in a lot of relationships over the years and you feel like you need to spend some time alone with yourself, but no one else can tell you to do that. If you feel like you’re ready to be in a relationship, you’re the one that knows yourself, so everyone else should leave you alone.
“You Should Meet My Friend, He’s Single”
Okay, but do they actually think that you’ll be compatible, or are they simply matching you up because they think you’re both lonely and depressed and need help in love?
“Don’t You Want To Find Someone?”
Obviously, but you’re going to find someone at your own pace and it doesn’t matter what anyone else’s timeline for your life is. If you want to be single right now, great. If you want to find someone to date, that’s cool too.
“I Wish I Was Still Single” Or “Being In A Relationship Isn’t That Great”
Yes, obviously being single has its perks, but so does being in a relationship. It can be annoying for people who are single when their friends pretend being married or dating isn’t great for them. Neither one is better, they’re just different and come with different advantages and disadvantages.
“Maybe You Need To Change Your Look”
If any of your friends suggest that you need to change your look or change yourself in order to find a relationship, you also need to find new friends. Changing yourself in order to please someone else or fit a mold of what other people are looking for is never the right answer.
“We Never Liked Your Ex Anyways”
Just like it’s better to be single than be in a bad relationship, it’s nice when you get out of a relationship with a person your friends didn’t like. But it doesn’t mean you never want to be in a relationship again.
“I Met My Partner/Spouse At ___, You Should Go There”
Just because someone else found their boyfriend, girlfriend, soulmate, or spouse at a certain bar or activity doesn’t mean it’s automatically a magical place where everyone will find love, but thanks for the suggestion.
“You’re Too Independent”
Since when is being able to support yourself considered a bad thing? If someone says that you’re too independent to be in a relationship, they’re too codependent to be in one with you.
“Are You Happy Being Single?”
The question should simply be “are you happy?” Your relationship status doesn’t need to have anything to do with it, and it’s okay to gently remind your friends that your happiness does not, in fact, hinge about whether or not you’re dating someone.